I don’t think kids can truly be taught; their natural talent must be nurtured. taught. Their natural talent must be nurtured. Parents need to understand the difference between teaching and nurturing. The majority of parents think they are fulfilling their responsibility by teaching kids — whereas the truth is often the opposite. Teaching can sometimes narrow a child’s natural abilities. I’m not saying we must not teach anything. But the majority of parenting is nurturing, not the other way around.

Identifying what a child is naturally good at is the first step. Some kids are good with numbers, some with logic, some with making connections. Each child is unique. Because they are new to the world, it becomes the parent’s responsibility to identify what they are good at. It’s a long process of hit and trial. Give them different tools to explore, then observe their natural inclinations.

Sometimes, this means going beyond your own interests. Many parents get stuck in their own passions — unintentionally limiting their children’s curiosity. Once kids show initiative, double down on it. If they lose interest, find a new way to make it engaging. And most importantly — children mirror what they see. If you have no hobbies or outside interests, you’re silently stealing opportunities from the next generation. You’re leaving their growth to luck or external forces.

Identifying talent is just the start — nurturing it is a marathon. It’s a test of patience and perseverance. It can be the single difference between a good and a great child. Challenge them. Treat them like adults. Kids love challenges — they rise to the level of seriousness you bring to them. Think of kids as blank slates. They only have access to the tools you provide. Imagine if Mozart’s parents had forced him to paint instead of play music — giving him no exposure to sound or instruments. The world would have lost a genius. Identifying and nurturing talent is a massive responsibility. Underestimate it, make excuses, or say you don’t have time — and you might miss out on another Mozart born in your own home.

Formal teaching — the kind we associate with schools — is one-size-fits-all. It shares world knowledge equally but not personally. It doesn’t cater to your child’s curiosity. If it were up to me, I would homeschool every child. Formal education isn’t a total waste, but it’s not designed for your child’s nature. The tragedy begins when parents rely solely on schools to teach and groom their kids. Education systems transfer information; parents must nurture transformation.

Spend time talking with kids. Treat them like adults. Have mature conversations so they open up about their interests. Do activities with them — show them, don’t teach them. Give 100% attention when you are with them; kids feel divided attention immediately. Invest in their interests — both time and money. Don’t try to create your own copy; let them be themselves. Instruct less. Ask more. Listen more.

The greatest chess player of all time, Magnus Carlsen, wouldn’t exist without his father’s observation. When Magnus was just three, his father noticed something unusual — unlike his sisters, Magnus wasn’t drawn to outdoor play. Instead, he spent six to seven hours solving advanced LEGO sets — and then analyzing them for hours afterward. Seeing this pattern, his father introduced him to chess, believing his mind might enjoy patterns and problem-solving. He played with Magnus regularly, even during family trips. That simple act of nurturing created history. Magnus became the youngest World Champion and the highest-rated player ever — the Mozart of Chess. He openly credits his father for discovering and nurturing his talent.

That’s how powerful and transformative the act of nurturing is. No one is better positioned to identify and grow a child’s potential than their parents. So don’t just instruct. Explore. Learn. Observe. Spend time. Create opportunities. Say no to instructive teaching. Say yes to nurturing.